Workshops

All Workshops will be held at

The World Beat Center

2100 Park Blvd, 92101

Impact & Rough Body Play w/ Sir Grrrgeous

Impact & Rough Body Play w/ Sir Grrrgeous

12:00pm – 1:50pm

Some days you just want to hit somebody. Come on out and look at ways to do that!

This workshop will take a ground up approach to impact and rough play with your partner’s body. We will start with safety and anatomy, then work our way around to pinching, slapping, punching, and even elbows, knees, and kicking.

This workshop will touch on several areas of impact play and will be geared toward those who are already familiar with the basic concepts of it. Also, Grrr has a history if orthopedic challenges, so there will be some tips for how to do a number of these techniques while seated.

There will be a Q & A, and if time allows, as well as opportunity to practice a few techniques.

About the Presenter:

Grrrgeous, or Grrr, is a smart, poly, queer, power femme, Leather Woman with a love of performing to showcase her teeny, tiny sadistic streak. Grrr has been active in the fetish/kink communities for close to two amazing decades. Currently a “wuzzie”, she is Ms. San Diego Leather 2015 and has served as President of the Board of Directors for Club X. She currently facilitates the monthly Club X Women’s Rap and has been the recipient of Greydancer’s Gruevy Award for Community Educators.

A lifelong educator and proud member of the House of And/Or, Grrr has delivered kink/Leather/fetish presentations at International Ms. Leather (IMsL) and several national events as well as for Club X, San Diego Leather Realm, student organizations, women’s conferences, fetish groups, healthcare professionals, and very private audiences for over 15 years. She enjoys every chance she gets to share what she has learned with others in classes, workshops and performing on stage.

Meanings, Uses and Misuses of Pain w/ John McConnell, PhD

Meanings, Uses and Misuses of Pain w/ John McConnell, PhD

12:00pm to 1:50pm

People play with pain erotically to get an Endorphin high. On a biological level, skillful erotic pain-play makes people feel good. Unskillful pain-play just hurts.
For many years the community has fixated on the idea that the endorphin high the primary reason people enjoy pain-play. This reason is simple and goes a long way to free pain play from the old nasty labels of psychopathology and perversion. Those labels are damaging because they imply that people who enjoy pain play are somehow incapable of love, which is of course untrue. Nevertheless, the endorphin hypothesis is simplistic and by fixating on it our community threw out the baby with the bathwater. There are many psychological reasons we seek pain play, and many are adaptive and healthy.
What happens psychologically as pain play gets more and more intense? Where do you go inside your head, and why do you want to go there? What makes an erotic “punishment trip” different from pain-play in a “interrogation trip” or a “hero’s journey?” and how are they psychologically adaptive and healthy? In other words, what are the positive uses and meanings of pain-play? I cover those issues in the first half of this talk.
The second half of this talk looks at the shadow side of pain. Pain-play used well makes people feel good about themselves. When mis-used, by intent or ignorance, pain leaves people feeling worse about themselves. Most often psychological pain between partners is not intentional: what does pain mean, here, when it is neither wanted nor useful? Some use pain in a conscious or partly conscious way to coerce or punish a partner, often without the partner’s meaningful consent. When does the mis-use of pain become abuse?
Abusive pain is very different than an erotic punishment scene. When pain is mis-used then at least one of the partners feels worse about their self: they feel de-valued. This is the exact opposite of healthy erotic pain play.

About the Presenter:

Dr. McConnell is Psychologist and Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Hillcrest. He has an outreach to the Leather Community. About half his clients are in complex relationships such as poly or D/s.

He also provides individual counseling for clients dealing with such typical issues as depression, anxiety, life transitions, employment conflicts, and inner financial health (for example procrastination over estate planning, chronically poor spending or chronically poor investment decisions).

Licensed in 1987, Dr. McConnell has given countless presentations to both professional and community audiences on Erotic and Relationship Diversity. He supervises three Interns who provide services on a sliding fee basis.
www.JohnMcConnellPhd.com ∙ John@JohnMcConnellPhD.com ∙ 619-993-3397

People of Color Caucus w/ Sereana

People of Color Caucus w/ Sereana

2:00pm to 3:50pm

The landscape in the local kink community may not accurately depict the population of “who we are” as people of color, but we are the only ones who can change this. We are our own representatives! Join me {Sereana} for a conversation about what that means, who we are, and how we can make our mark. All are welcome to participate, we are a Leather Community after all… but there is a need to focus on the specifics that affect PoC. This will be a conversation by us, for us. Additionally, we will address intersectionality in our community. The experience of one versus another amongst PoC is a valuable conversation that isn’t voiced often enough. We cannot expect others to understand us if we do not understand each other. Let’s get talking!

About the Presenter:

Sereana stumbled her way into the kink/BDSM community in 2014, starry eyed and filled with curiosity. She quickly understood the value in supporting the community and became an avid volunteer for Club X, opting to serve a full term on the Club X Board of Directors. Further expansion of perspective has been obtained through personal experiences and interstate travel. She has recently put energy into sharing kinky experiences and curated information to curious folx as a panelist and moderator, and is looking to expand information sharing to media platforms.
Currently, she can be found living an unapologetic life -chatting over cigars, Co-hosting the San Diego Leather Roundtable, Coordinating Leather Realm volunteers, playing with sharp things with her Edgewalker family, or spreading H.E.L.P. wherever she can.

Erotic Shaving: Intimacy with a Blade

Erotic Shaving: Intimacy with a Blade

2:00pm to 3:50pm

Every time the term Erotic Shaving gets mentioned, people always ask us, “how can shaving be erotic?”.  Shaving, or being shaved by a partner could be a very intimate and bonding experience. Erotic control over someone to dictate how their hair, or lack thereof, is to be maintained. Fetishization of the shaving implements or of the sensations before, during, and after a shave. There can be both trust and fear involved when holding a dangerous object near another person’s face, legs, or maybe genitals, and that can lead to a highly charged encounter.  Perhaps one of these speaks to you, and, if not, there are many other reasons that can be as diverse as is our community.  Regardless of the reason that one might find shaving to be erotic, there are a number of things to observe that will help you have a safer and more fulfilling erotic shaving experience.  We will cover:
  • Brief history of shaving and how it can be eroticized
  • Types of razors and where to find them
  • Cleaning, care and safety
  • How to shave different areas of the body (self and on others)
  • How to combine techniques and sensations to enhance erotic impact
  • Aftercare and what can go wrong
  • Any gender demonstration

About the Presenter:

Jason is a self identified Master with long running interests in physical, sexual, and emotional sadism.  Out and proud in San Diego since the beginning of 2011, He volunteers a great deal of time locally and abroad.  Constantly seeking to improve his skills, He attends workshops, classes, and conferences regularly, and loves bringing back knowledge to share with the community.  Multi volunteer award winner, former secretary for Club X SD, and former director of MAsT Metro SD, He has a penchant for rough body play, humiliation/objectification, sharps and watersports.

Cigars 101 w/ Sir Karen

Cigars 101 w/ Sir Karen

4:00pm to 5:50pm

How to Buy, Cut, Light, Smoke and Play with Cigars

This will be a hands-on, lips-wrapped around kind of workshop venue outside so dress accordingly. We will share information and stories about how it looks and feels to play with a cigar and what “Cigar Play” is all about. So if you have a favorite cigar …then “bring it!” There is a culture to Cigar and Cigar Play and we will delve into this traditional interaction. This workshop will cover the general understanding of cigars and how we can safely play with them.

About the Presenter:

KYew has been involved with the leather community since 1996, was Ms. San Diego Leather 2004 and is Mama’s Community Outreach. A partial list of events and organizations she has volunteered for are as follows: the Free Speech Coalition, IMsL, San Diego Leather Pride and Folsom Street Fair. Founder of San Diego’s All Clubs Night, The Hard Edge and Co- Founder of Leather Roundtable. She has supported Club X, the San Diego Bootblacks, the Boiys in Leather Service Rose City, Palm Springs Leather Pride and Ms San Francisco Leather. Some of the events KYew has presented at are: Southwest Leather Conference, Sash Bash in Portland, Lair De Sade, Behind Closed Doors, Threshold, Club X, Leather Leadership Conference, LA H.E.A.T., Sin in the City and Desire.